The Sex - I have been married 8
years. Four years ago my husband confessed affair with karaoke and escort sex
many times. We did not get divorced because I was not ready emotionally and
economically as well as the reasons no children.
But despite now living in a home, we do not have 3 years for sexual relationships. I also do not know her husband nge-sex with anyone. But I feel miserable. What should I do?
Nur (Married woman, 40 years), nurhaXXXXX@yahoo.com
Height: 144 cm Weight 46 kg
Answer
I am frankly a bit tricky to answer because the first three years if your husband no marital relationship at all, yes of course there is a chance your husband will continue to seek out.
If you do not want to live at home, if you are unable to forgive or accept your husband at all because there is no sense of love, why you should not divorce. Krena if you raise a child in the house that you do not feel happy and continue to suffer later the children will also feel what he felt his mother so that they grow into children who are full of resentment at his own father.
Secondly, if you do not want a divorce because it was not ready emotionally, I guess you really still love your husband. If it's real economic reason to look for ways that you can earn your income for the family or by way of example, divorce with children are given allowances by your husband.
But if you do not want to lose your husband why do not you try to forgive and try to make back about what you can do as a wife after you forgive in order to improve this relationship becomes more intimate again. What can you do as a wife so the husband does not need to snack to and fro, repeatedly having sex with a prostitute once.
Only if I may suggest when you want to have sex with your husband again, build up your love again, what if you both went first to the doctor not to any other sexually transmitted diseases will actually worsen the situation of your household.
If for example, do not want to consult a doctor, at least for now please use a condom at first intercourse, because we never know how your husband's situation out there with other people who may be affected.
I know this is probably the hardest thing you should do but I can only say that true happiness can only be your gain if you can forgive.
Try to start something new because everyone can make mistakes. Help your husband to make amends to you how he should fix the marriage. Try talking about the two of you this time, ask each of you cintakah still on him and he's still on your cintakah.
If it still does not hurt to really start something new, not used to fighting for first divorced, I'm sure if for example you are not ready emotionally is possible there are still really love it and it was worth fighting. Good luck!
Zoya Amirin, M.Psi
Sexual psychologist certified by the educational background of sexual psychology. Chairman of the Community Study of Sexual Attitudes and also a member of the Indonesian Association of Sexology.
Instructor courses Reproductive Health Sciences, Human relations, Public Relations, Communication Sciences at the Basic School of Public Health, University of Indonesia.
But despite now living in a home, we do not have 3 years for sexual relationships. I also do not know her husband nge-sex with anyone. But I feel miserable. What should I do?
Nur (Married woman, 40 years), nurhaXXXXX@yahoo.com
Height: 144 cm Weight 46 kg
Answer
I am frankly a bit tricky to answer because the first three years if your husband no marital relationship at all, yes of course there is a chance your husband will continue to seek out.
If you do not want to live at home, if you are unable to forgive or accept your husband at all because there is no sense of love, why you should not divorce. Krena if you raise a child in the house that you do not feel happy and continue to suffer later the children will also feel what he felt his mother so that they grow into children who are full of resentment at his own father.
Secondly, if you do not want a divorce because it was not ready emotionally, I guess you really still love your husband. If it's real economic reason to look for ways that you can earn your income for the family or by way of example, divorce with children are given allowances by your husband.
But if you do not want to lose your husband why do not you try to forgive and try to make back about what you can do as a wife after you forgive in order to improve this relationship becomes more intimate again. What can you do as a wife so the husband does not need to snack to and fro, repeatedly having sex with a prostitute once.
Only if I may suggest when you want to have sex with your husband again, build up your love again, what if you both went first to the doctor not to any other sexually transmitted diseases will actually worsen the situation of your household.
If for example, do not want to consult a doctor, at least for now please use a condom at first intercourse, because we never know how your husband's situation out there with other people who may be affected.
I know this is probably the hardest thing you should do but I can only say that true happiness can only be your gain if you can forgive.
Try to start something new because everyone can make mistakes. Help your husband to make amends to you how he should fix the marriage. Try talking about the two of you this time, ask each of you cintakah still on him and he's still on your cintakah.
If it still does not hurt to really start something new, not used to fighting for first divorced, I'm sure if for example you are not ready emotionally is possible there are still really love it and it was worth fighting. Good luck!
Zoya Amirin, M.Psi
Sexual psychologist certified by the educational background of sexual psychology. Chairman of the Community Study of Sexual Attitudes and also a member of the Indonesian Association of Sexology.
Instructor courses Reproductive Health Sciences, Human relations, Public Relations, Communication Sciences at the Basic School of Public Health, University of Indonesia.
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