The Sex - The man known easily aroused and think of things
but what's the difference sexually normal men with men who are addicted to sex?
How
can you tell the couple to have the disorder or not?
Essentially to determine whether a man addicted to sex or not practically very difficult. But with such a perception, perhaps the women will be increasingly difficult to differentiate a normal man and did not.
Tendency for sex addiction can be realized in various ways as many movies on internet pornography, excessive masturbation, often do phone sex with strangers (if you do not have a spouse), a frequent visitor to the area of prostitution or massage parlors plus-plus and tends affair.
"When stress, a normal man could have done something else to handle it like a sport, call your friends or watching TV. However, a sex addict relies on sex to release stress and re stabilize his mood," said Lisa Paz, Ph.D., a therapist marriage is based in Miami.
So you do not constantly worry about, consider the 10 signs that show a man you have sex addiction lifescript was quoted as saying on Monday (8/6/2012) below.
1. He's a 'sticky' with computers
In the past, too many men do not get the visual media to vent their sexual desire, there are only videos and magazines.
With the entry of the internet and the many free online porn scattered inside the 'need' sex addicts can continue to be fulfilled, said Robert Weiss, LCSW, founder and director of the Sexual Recovery Institute, based in Los Angeles.
If the couple spent many hours online in the room and closed the door and give a lot of vague reasons then maybe there is something hidden.
"Sex addicts porn watch 3-4 hours a day, 4-5 days per week. They also lost the time to relax, gather with family or other activities," said Weiss.
The combination of unlimited choice of porn on the internet and excessive sexual desire which makes addicts can not get out of the computer.
"This sort of hunt relentlessly for the sake of getting other cool stuff and very addictive," he continued.
2. Countless porn collection
If you find adult magazines in the bathroom or DVD porn does not mean your partner is a sex addict. It's still fairly reasonable.
The new condition is arguably the department if you find porno video classified as hardcore (especially for you) or a stack of his DVD collection is almost the same as the collection of books in the library, said Weiss.
If he claimed the pile was the only sexual secrets and you know he was lying because there are many more things she does like chat, phone sex or SMS nasty then you need to worry.
3. He's always ruin a plan or late-round
Sex addiction can lead to the emergence of a destructive pattern of commitment to a relationship.
"Part of him knew better when they do something else and it is part of a compulsive," says relationship therapist from Manhattan, Michael Batshaw, LCSW.
4. Heard the phrase 'not tonight' upset
There was no single person who likes to be rejected and you do not need a psychologist to know that most men would be happier and more relaxed after sex. Even if he could understand a little upset because you and your partner do not have sex for some time.
But of course a sex addict is addicted to sex, as well as smokers who can not stay away from cigarettes and become irritable if his request for sex are not met.
"Without sex, addicts will look very nervous as he was ill and needed medication to ease it. But it also depends on how big his addiction," said Paz.
5. The director or acting like she was starring in a porn movie
A number of addicts is often a sudden want to have sex with their partner all the time but when they get it, the emotional connection between them is lost.
"No more love in it, that there is only a 'release'," notes Batshaw.
Other signs point to note is that she likes to ask for strange things during sex.
"They tend to insist that demand is met but not all couples often agree to try new things like a new sexual position," said Paz.
Together with other addictions, sex addicts will look to meet the increasing frequency of lovemaking desire. You do not have to hesitate because it is very natural.
Addicts also tend to get bored with conventional sex and no longer aroused when he saw or did. Such men need to be encouraged to make love like a video he had just seen and sex are usually using a method slightly distorted.
6. No longer have a sexual attraction to you
If a couple has to get his sexual needs elsewhere, whether through porn or sexual activity with another person, he may also lose sexual interest in you.
Maybe it could be acted on your addiction, but often he can not resolve or climax.
"If he's suddenly unable or difficult to reach a climax when having sex with your routine, it could be a sign he was no longer sensitive to a healthy sex that has to do with you," said Paz.
Even for some sex addicts, sex is not the main point. In addition, sex addicts often feel very embarrassed after finished making love. One of them said, "Why do they have to have sex like that?"
7. You find any suspicious financial activity
Your savings in the bank is reduced, the credit is not unusual or cards that you never know of its existence is a sign that something is wrong.
According to the Sexual Recovery Institute, around 60 sex addict experiencing financial problems because a lot of money to meet the 'needs'.
Do not ignore the bills, particularly the unusual you know though seemingly mundane, suggestions Paz.
"A lot of porn sites, phone sex and prostitution service that does not include names like Boobs R Us, in fact they are usually registered with the company name 'seems to be" credible, "he added.
8. Addiction is not just one
Some studies suggest that sex addicts often have an addiction to something else.
Many organizations, including the Sexual Recovery Institute estimates that 83 percent of addicts also abuse drugs, eating disorders, excessive spending or even like to gamble.
"This means kompulsitivitas is part of his personality now and he wants his needs met in different ways," Batshaw said.
9. The he could not move from his past
Try to dig a little about his family background. Find out how life in childhood. Usually sex addicts come from families with at least one of them has a tendency.
Plus, ask your parents whether closed or open in terms of sex. This is because of a sex addict in the family grew somewhat less healthy sexual behavior such as restricted or too many taboos.
In many cases, violence and sexual abuse, both physically and emotionally in childhood can also be influential.
Not only that, sex addiction can grow when the children were afraid of or failure to face pressure from parents, for example related to education.
"Kecandungan also a response to shame. A number of teenagers drink or smoke marijuana to relieve the stress of academic performance is considered not good enough, teenagers also deal with masturbation," says Batshaw.
But how masturbation could develop into a sex addiction?
"Compulsive masturbation can be started from a child who is very controlled but has a very high level of anxiety so that when entering puberty, the main way to reduce anxiety it is to masturbate," he continued.
Especially if someone is entering the age where they can play fantasy then they would translate into actions that compulsive sexual, he said.
10. Your little heart alarm
If a small heart to say that your partner has sexual problems, whether it's porn addiction or cheating, do not be passive with trying to forgive him or rationalizing.
"The women will look like a crazy person. The man was trying to find reasons to say 'Why are you so jealous?' 'Why are you suspicious?' 'Why do you keep following me?' "Said Weiss.
The point is do not feel there is something wrong with you because of doubts.
"If in the end the action of the couple revealed all, then you will say, 'Oh my God, it turns out I was right all this time!'," He concluded.
Essentially to determine whether a man addicted to sex or not practically very difficult. But with such a perception, perhaps the women will be increasingly difficult to differentiate a normal man and did not.
Tendency for sex addiction can be realized in various ways as many movies on internet pornography, excessive masturbation, often do phone sex with strangers (if you do not have a spouse), a frequent visitor to the area of prostitution or massage parlors plus-plus and tends affair.
"When stress, a normal man could have done something else to handle it like a sport, call your friends or watching TV. However, a sex addict relies on sex to release stress and re stabilize his mood," said Lisa Paz, Ph.D., a therapist marriage is based in Miami.
So you do not constantly worry about, consider the 10 signs that show a man you have sex addiction lifescript was quoted as saying on Monday (8/6/2012) below.
1. He's a 'sticky' with computers
In the past, too many men do not get the visual media to vent their sexual desire, there are only videos and magazines.
With the entry of the internet and the many free online porn scattered inside the 'need' sex addicts can continue to be fulfilled, said Robert Weiss, LCSW, founder and director of the Sexual Recovery Institute, based in Los Angeles.
If the couple spent many hours online in the room and closed the door and give a lot of vague reasons then maybe there is something hidden.
"Sex addicts porn watch 3-4 hours a day, 4-5 days per week. They also lost the time to relax, gather with family or other activities," said Weiss.
The combination of unlimited choice of porn on the internet and excessive sexual desire which makes addicts can not get out of the computer.
"This sort of hunt relentlessly for the sake of getting other cool stuff and very addictive," he continued.
2. Countless porn collection
If you find adult magazines in the bathroom or DVD porn does not mean your partner is a sex addict. It's still fairly reasonable.
The new condition is arguably the department if you find porno video classified as hardcore (especially for you) or a stack of his DVD collection is almost the same as the collection of books in the library, said Weiss.
If he claimed the pile was the only sexual secrets and you know he was lying because there are many more things she does like chat, phone sex or SMS nasty then you need to worry.
3. He's always ruin a plan or late-round
Sex addiction can lead to the emergence of a destructive pattern of commitment to a relationship.
"Part of him knew better when they do something else and it is part of a compulsive," says relationship therapist from Manhattan, Michael Batshaw, LCSW.
4. Heard the phrase 'not tonight' upset
There was no single person who likes to be rejected and you do not need a psychologist to know that most men would be happier and more relaxed after sex. Even if he could understand a little upset because you and your partner do not have sex for some time.
But of course a sex addict is addicted to sex, as well as smokers who can not stay away from cigarettes and become irritable if his request for sex are not met.
"Without sex, addicts will look very nervous as he was ill and needed medication to ease it. But it also depends on how big his addiction," said Paz.
5. The director or acting like she was starring in a porn movie
A number of addicts is often a sudden want to have sex with their partner all the time but when they get it, the emotional connection between them is lost.
"No more love in it, that there is only a 'release'," notes Batshaw.
Other signs point to note is that she likes to ask for strange things during sex.
"They tend to insist that demand is met but not all couples often agree to try new things like a new sexual position," said Paz.
Together with other addictions, sex addicts will look to meet the increasing frequency of lovemaking desire. You do not have to hesitate because it is very natural.
Addicts also tend to get bored with conventional sex and no longer aroused when he saw or did. Such men need to be encouraged to make love like a video he had just seen and sex are usually using a method slightly distorted.
6. No longer have a sexual attraction to you
If a couple has to get his sexual needs elsewhere, whether through porn or sexual activity with another person, he may also lose sexual interest in you.
Maybe it could be acted on your addiction, but often he can not resolve or climax.
"If he's suddenly unable or difficult to reach a climax when having sex with your routine, it could be a sign he was no longer sensitive to a healthy sex that has to do with you," said Paz.
Even for some sex addicts, sex is not the main point. In addition, sex addicts often feel very embarrassed after finished making love. One of them said, "Why do they have to have sex like that?"
7. You find any suspicious financial activity
Your savings in the bank is reduced, the credit is not unusual or cards that you never know of its existence is a sign that something is wrong.
According to the Sexual Recovery Institute, around 60 sex addict experiencing financial problems because a lot of money to meet the 'needs'.
Do not ignore the bills, particularly the unusual you know though seemingly mundane, suggestions Paz.
"A lot of porn sites, phone sex and prostitution service that does not include names like Boobs R Us, in fact they are usually registered with the company name 'seems to be" credible, "he added.
8. Addiction is not just one
Some studies suggest that sex addicts often have an addiction to something else.
Many organizations, including the Sexual Recovery Institute estimates that 83 percent of addicts also abuse drugs, eating disorders, excessive spending or even like to gamble.
"This means kompulsitivitas is part of his personality now and he wants his needs met in different ways," Batshaw said.
9. The he could not move from his past
Try to dig a little about his family background. Find out how life in childhood. Usually sex addicts come from families with at least one of them has a tendency.
Plus, ask your parents whether closed or open in terms of sex. This is because of a sex addict in the family grew somewhat less healthy sexual behavior such as restricted or too many taboos.
In many cases, violence and sexual abuse, both physically and emotionally in childhood can also be influential.
Not only that, sex addiction can grow when the children were afraid of or failure to face pressure from parents, for example related to education.
"Kecandungan also a response to shame. A number of teenagers drink or smoke marijuana to relieve the stress of academic performance is considered not good enough, teenagers also deal with masturbation," says Batshaw.
But how masturbation could develop into a sex addiction?
"Compulsive masturbation can be started from a child who is very controlled but has a very high level of anxiety so that when entering puberty, the main way to reduce anxiety it is to masturbate," he continued.
Especially if someone is entering the age where they can play fantasy then they would translate into actions that compulsive sexual, he said.
10. Your little heart alarm
If a small heart to say that your partner has sexual problems, whether it's porn addiction or cheating, do not be passive with trying to forgive him or rationalizing.
"The women will look like a crazy person. The man was trying to find reasons to say 'Why are you so jealous?' 'Why are you suspicious?' 'Why do you keep following me?' "Said Weiss.
The point is do not feel there is something wrong with you because of doubts.
"If in the end the action of the couple revealed all, then you will say, 'Oh my God, it turns out I was right all this time!'," He concluded.
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