The Sex - Problem 5 Complaints Husband After Wife Maternity Intimate Relationships

The Sex - After giving birth not only the mother's body are subject to change, but also affects the quality and quantity of lovemaking. Here are five complaints about the husband wife intercourse after childbirth.

Having children is a very wonderful and fun for anyone, but in some women with children can actually make sexual arousal is reduced.

Here are 5 things that her husband often complained about the quality of her intimate relationship after his wife gave birth,  namely:

1.       So lazy wife without a husband to make love to know the cause

Several things can cause lazy mom sex, ranging from physical to psychological problems. Will decrease the frequency of sex in the first period of 1 year after delivery.

One reason is the change in shape after giving birth that makes women feel sexy or confident to be a lazy fuck. And can also result in a fatigue factor that makes child care not in the mood to make love and choose to rest.

2.      Miss V traction is reduced or not 'bite'

Dr. Renee Horowitz, director of the Center for Sexual Wellness in Farmington Hills said physically more than half of women experience pain during sexual intercourse after childbirth. This condition is often found in women who deliver vaginally and forceps assisted.

Pain appears due to perineal trauma caused by the seam and had an episiotomy (the cutting of the birth canal). The pain is made ​​up of the vagina is reduced traction.

3.       Frequent odor

If you get stitches when labor is needed extra attention in taking care of the vagina, because if left unchecked can lead to infection or odor came from the vagina.

Moreover after the birth mother will be followed by bleeding and vaginal discharge, so that new mothers are advised to use sanitary and hygiene so that the vagina does not smell.

4.      Wife did not ask that her husband was not required

The main cause of this problem is the increased levels of the hormone prolactin to breast-feeding effect on reduced levels of dopamine that makes the sex drive is reduced.

5.      Wife is more important: weight maintenance rather than the sex organs

As we all know women are very concerned with appearance, especially after most of the pregnant women gain weight. For most women or wives were more concerned with the appearance of body weight than do the intimate organs.

Vaginal sex organs, especially the less well-kept course, affect the quality of that intercourse with a partner.

The Sex - Sexual Passion Lost, Once Caught cheating wife

The Sex - In the age of 20 year marriage, sex began to diminish and even disappear. Ever tried to fantasize, even with all the style but not the expected increase arousal.

Finally, try to fantasize or close to other people, hoping to motivate sex, the opposite result. Because she knows our affairs, so the angry wife was not excited. What should be done to re-warm as it used to be?

Aliek (Married man, 45 years), aliekXXXX@gmail.com
Height: 168 cm Weight 70 kg

Answer

So warm as it used to be, it certainly did not get with other people approaching. Do you try to increase the feeling of affection and love for his wife.

So I suggest before sexual fantasies, first ask for forgiveness from your wife first. Try to repair again jointly if necessary ask to build a marriage consular assistance and help in order to be able to forgive your wife.

Second, the most ideal way is I suggest you for a little over a month collect everything from memory the first time you get married to this day for anything that would make you love your wife. What makes you so interested in him, and what makes you excited about him.

Collect all of the list, hopefully this will help you to revive your love for the wife.

Decline in sex drive is usually caused by a lack of love because we are already involved in the routine. So we do not want to try to raise or develop or even continue to build intimacy and recalling the things that make us love, and passionately interested in our partner.

Including trying to get used to the praise and see excess pair. With diligence we see our partner's strengths will help us also to attach feelings again as a partner.

So do not take medication, do not go near the other was even more pronounced. The ideal is to make a list. If you can list frequently written and read, be remembered for one month. Then kontempelasikan (reflection) and reveals all that list after finding it completely flat.

Revealed to the wife that this is the stuff that I love from you and I would still love you. These lists aim to be more quickly forgiven and his love and passion woke up again it would be okay again as well as first time first time.

Zoya Amirin, M.Psi
Sexual psychologist certified by the educational background of sexual psychology. Chairman of the Community Study of Sexual Attitudes and also a member of the Indonesian Association of Sexology. Instructor courses Reproductive Health Sciences, Human relations, Public Relations, Communication Sciences at the Basic School of Public Health, University of Indonesia.